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Life life both long and wide
Do you want to live life to the length you get? Or have you pushed to live it long AND wide?
Live in the present but plan for the future!
We all need a "feel good" reminder of what life is all about. The purpose of life is life with a purpose. That being said, life is an individual experience. What do you want from your life? What are you doing to make every day special? Are you able to say that you love your life - even during this pandemic? Are you finding ways to keep yourself upbeat and motivated?
To have led a "good life" does not mean that you have to have become a world renowned genius like Mozart or Gates. It means that you have left the earth a better place than when you arrived. To me it means that you have experienced joy, love, and established your own legacy.
We just don't know how long we have to experience the many gifts and offerings of life. Recently I watched the documentary (based on a true story) titled "The Elephant in the Room". It is a loving, tear-jerking story of multiple patients who face diseases that will lead to an early somewhat abrupt death accompanied by pain and fear. It is the story of the medical personnel who comprise a palliative care - hospice team with a hospital.
The love - the compassion - the ability to look a patient in the eye and really listen while also telling the truth - comes through loud and clear.
"Do what you want right now" says the doctor to the patient.
And the patient reminds the doctor "you work too hard....go enjoy that woman you love while you can."
We all need reminders. I know that I do. I don't even own a TV but I had to watch this - getting a bit teary eyed at my desk.
"Death does not need to be dark and frightening if we talk about it openly and work to make every moment special. Love and laughter can co-exist with loss and heartache." Bonnie Jo Freman, RN, DNP, ANP-BD, CT, ACHPN May 1957-June 2018.
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We have countless jokes online and in person about nonstop phone calls at all hours begging you to extend your car warranty - even when you don't own a car! But we don't talk about death. AND we all have death in common!
Upon death, even if your legal paperwork is completed will there be problems? Tell others about your wishes. Make changes as often as you want but be sure your loved ones know. Problems arise when loved ones disagree. Money can do that to wills.
You don't have to discuss death daily. Yet you need to face that we all will die. Give yourself a rest sometimes but remember that each day is precious.