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Being in Texas during this winter disaster, I am reminded of the fact it's okay to redefine a good day at times!
Why talk about death and dying? It is part of life. Do your loved ones know what kind of medical care, rituals, or even ceremonies you would like before death? If you need a visual to help you read through this, scroll to the link at the end!
We all have different attention spans. We all get distracted by different things. This weather and surrounding inconveniences have left me somewhat unable to do what I know I should be doing. I can't stay focused.
Do I forgive myself and move on? Or do I beat myself up?
And then my yin and yang led me to start thinking that my feelings are much like many people experience when talking about death - even thinking about death.
So I am going to talk about how tough it is not to be able to shower or flush a toilet (without using pioneer methods which we are doing). I am also going to remind you that your biggest gift is life! Every single day is a gift. So even when feeling cold, frustrated, isolated, worried, etc. you still need to find the joy!
Talking about death and dying might be uncomfortable or upsetting but having ongoing conversations about these subjects with those you love including family, friends and even health care providers can help make you more prepared. Preparing for the inevitable death we all will face allows it to be more probable that we will get the care we want at the end of life.
Most probably you will experience the death of a loved one during your lifetime. We are all going to die. Open conversations about death and dying allows each of us to consider how we feel about different options for the end of life. How do you want to live your final days? How do you want to be celebrated and remembered?
If you don't have those discussions, it will mean that others have to make the decisions about death and dying for you. It isn't just about legal paperwork but also about making sure that your wishes have been made clear.
I want the water to start flowing again. I want clean clothes. I want to take a shower. Okay I have said it. You heard me. Why is talking about wishes for a good death (a definition for each individual) considered too personal or private? Let us all talk about it.
And make the most of your day....with or without frozen pipes.
I urge you to watch a great TEDx talk by Isabel Merrin. It may help you realize that such discussions are good! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2HcxtBCK-o
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We have countless jokes online and in person about nonstop phone calls at all hours begging you to extend your car warranty - even when you don't own a car! But we don't talk about death. AND we all have death in common!
Upon death, even if your legal paperwork is completed will there be problems? Tell others about your wishes. Make changes as often as you want but be sure your loved ones know. Problems arise when loved ones disagree. Money can do that to wills.
Death comes easier to those who have lived a meaningful and passionate life. This urges you to live your best life. Follow your dreams. Find your calling. Don't be ordinary.