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Facing death, most worry most about missing life!

The Party Will Go On Without You - So Enjoy Every Day You Have!

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We know we are all headed for a final crash.  There is no denying the fact that we will die and most of us have no idea when that day will come.  First, we will also most probably face the death of people we love.  


How do you prepare yourself intellecturally and emotionally for death?   Have you tried to put yourself into the mind of a dying person?


Before you feel that you should sign your advance directive (aka living will) or learn more about life support to make better choices or sign a suicide pact with someone you really need to explore your inner thoughts about death.   This is NOT just thinking about the legalities and medicine but the BIG picture.


There is fear, denial, and maybe even a complete brain freeze about facing your own finality.  You really have to work to imagine the unimaginable.  
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What is frightening to you about death?  What is not frightening to you about death?  Do you believe in an afterlife?  Take a good hard look at death - and do it over and over and over again so you can feel like you "get it".



You have to face your own fears.  If we don't acknowledge our own fears we will be so shocked and useless when we face the death of a loved one that we will respond in a way that we could regret later.  



The world will go on without us.  That is hard to face.  We dread death because we don't want to be a burden to others.  We dread death because we aren't finished (with living) yet.  There are so many journeys yet to take and so many dreams yet to make happen!



Hug now.  Say things now.  And work to get your bag of mixed fears and feelings in front of your mind.  All of this is a GREAT reason to live every day more fully - more full of love - while creating memories and stories.  What will "they" say about you after you leave this earth is something you can continue to work on until your very last breath!





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